In addition, some people have kinks that have to do with same-sex encounters, but they’re not inherently attracted to the same sex.
This has nothing to do with appearance, mannerisms, or fashion choices. Western culture unfortunately tends to stereotype gay men as effeminate and image-obsessed, but most of them actually aren’t like that.
(Those are just the ones you tend to notice.) Furthermore, I personally know several effeminate straight men. You really can’t know from mannerisms alone. He Is Homophobic or Acts Uncomfortable Around Gay Men However, if your boyfriend is from a non-English-speaking culture, especially South Asia, East Asia, or the Middle East, it's actually not that unusual in certain countries for men to embrace, kiss, or even walk down the street holding hands. One of the biggest tell-tale signs that your boyfriend is insecure with his sexuality is if he shows unusual levels of homophobia. Most straight men have no problem with gay guys. But if your boyfriend actively hates gay men even if they have never done anything to him and never speak to him, then this is extremely telling. You've probably heard loads of stories about anti-gay preachers who were later discovered to be trolling gay hookup sites. Many times, a man who hates the fact that he likes other men will take it out on gay people and treat them badly. At the very least, it's not unusual for a guy who is denying his sexuality to fear coming into contact with people who are living with their gayness freely.